We will each — at certain times — reflect upon our tèaching and writing in philosophy. In recent reflections on my own work, I have noticed two persistent, underlying yet motivating ideas: love and morality. In A Feminist Philosophy of Religion, I claim both the existence of a yearning for love and a longing to put things in order, as they ought to be. However, following Kant's philosophy, I cannot help but become critical in this selfreflection. In particular, have I fallen into the feminist trap of `moralizing", in a negative sense, about the subject of love? The trap may have been set for a tradition of feminist philosophers influenced by French feminist reflections on religion.¹ I use the image of a trap because it seems inevitable that, assuming the validity of psychoanalysis, the followers of certain French feminist philosophers make moral judgments about the repressed desire of men and women; but it is not clear that, even if it can be demonstrated to exist, repression is something for which individuals can be morally responsible repressed desire is not my concern in this paper, so I will leave for another time the question as to whether or not the French feminist position is self-defeating. It is the question of moralization, taken ultimately in a positive sense, which motivates my discussion today as a distinctively twenty-first century concern.